Habeeb Quadri: 'Your Success is Our Success.’
Habeeb Quadri: Your Success is Our Success
In this episode of the American Muslim Podcast, hosted by Imam Tariq El-Amin and presented by Bayan on Demand, the guest is Habib Kadri, an award-winning educator, author, youth advocate, superintendent of MCC Academy, and part-time faculty at Harvard University. Kadri discusses his journey into education, inspired by his parents and significant figures like Mr. Earl and Dr. Gazda. He reflects on his leadership experiences, challenges in Islamic education, the importance of instilling confidence and good character in students, and his vision for education. He emphasizes transformational learning, priority management, and the significance of community collaboration. Kadri also talks about his consulting work aimed at enhancing educational practices globally and shares insights on maintaining balance and sincerity in personal and professional life.
00:00 Introduction to Bayan on Demand
00:57 Meet the Host and Guest
01:45 Early Inspirations in Education
04:58 High School and Basketball Journey
08:59 Leadership and Community Involvement
13:30 Path to Educational Leadership
16:11 Vision for Education
20:22 Challenges in Islamic Schools
26:36 Transformative Power of Education
29:17 Learning from Elite Institutions
32:43 The Potential of Islamic Schools
33:33 The Role of Humility in Leadership
37:14 Balancing Faith and Leadership
38:04 Time Management vs. Priority Management
42:46 Founding High Quality Educational Consulting
44:51 Addressing Youth Challenges and Islamic Studies
48:15 The Importance of Asking Questions
54:01 Receiving the ISNA Lifetime Educational Achievement Award
01:00:16 Final Reflections and Gratitude
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:As Salaamu Alaikum, may the peace
that only God can give be upon you.
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:I'm your host Imam Tariq El-Amin.
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:Welcome to the American Muslim
Podcast, presented by Bayan on Demand.
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:Our guest today is Habib Kadri,
an award-winning educator,
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:author, and youth advocate.
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:Currently the superintendent
of MCC Academy and part-time
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:faculty at Harvard University.
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:He has impacted education worldwide
through thousands of lectures,
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:consulting and community service.
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:Welcome to the American Muslim Podcast.
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:My brother As Salaamu Alaikum.
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:Habib Quadri: Wa Alaikum As Salaam.
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:Imam Tariq: Well, we thank you
for taking the time to have a
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:conversation with us and share.
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:We always start by
letting our guests know.
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:We invite them to be as open,
as transparent, as vulnerable as
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:they are comfortable being and
sharing a bit of their journey.
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:So can you take us back
to your early years and.
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:Tell us what was it or who
was it that inspired you to
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:pursue a career in education?
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:Habib Quadri: I think it's kind of unique.
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:so my father and my dad, came in 1960.
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:So he was at Oklahoma State
University for one year.
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:It was kind of tough sitting
in one side of classroom not
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:getting a job opportunity.
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:So he moved to Kansas State.
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:And so he was kind of
part of you know, the MSA.
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:So when he got into Chicago,
and started Chicago, they were
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:part of the Sunday school.
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:So the first Sunday school used
to be in Gary, Indiana, but that
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:used to be the headquarters of MSA.
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:They used to drive from the city, and
he used to, and I always wonder why
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:he came to the city of Chicago because
from Kansas State in the summer, all
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:the, the students, especially the
immigrant Muslim students, used to come
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:to Chicago so they could find a job.
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:you know, being bus boys and
so on and so forth in downtown.
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:And so my parents both taught Sunday
school for, 50 years masha'Allah.
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:So that maybe was my first
group, like parents involved.
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:Then when I came into the field, I have
to say, teachers played a big part.
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:I became a social studies teacher, Mr.
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:Earl in eighth grade.
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:used to always wear suits, and he used to
play basketball with us at the, you know,
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:recess come around, shoot the baskets.
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:So I always felt like, man,
you know, he is a cool guy.
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:I wanted social studies because of him.
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:I wear suits every day if you see
people see me at school, right?
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:and just 'cause I always felt like
this guy's just crisp to the point.
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:And so I think that kind of came
my first kind of option, hey there
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:someone that made a big impact.
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:You know, you always have your elementary
teachers who you like, but some, you know,
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:when you're in that middle school years.
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:And for me, that played
a big part in education.
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:And then in middle school, I got to
play basketball at North Park College.
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:I mean, our North Park, was like a church.
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:There was a church school, Ray
Whitson, he was only 21, but he
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:coats us 13, 14 year olds, right?
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:he was gonna be, become a
pastor at North Park University.
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:But the idea of him just to kind
of embrace his, Hey, you know,
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:let us play with, you know,
let, letting me play with them.
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:I felt man, that was just another guy just
making impact, like motivating mentoring.
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:So I was like, I like this idea.
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:So when I was in high school,
I was like the Big brother, big
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:sister program, played ball.
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:So that played a big part.
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:And then I think another one in
my high school career would be Dr.
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:Gazda, who saw me pray on the side.
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:He is man, you're really practicing.
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:So he's the guy who sponsored, uh,
to guide him and said, Hey, you know
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:what, if you need to pray, don't you
guys, and we talked about fifth, he
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:goes, you guys prayed five times?
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:He goes, yeah, and you know, Juma.
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:So we used to pray juma at a
kid's house after school who lived
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:clo closer to school, some of
the Muslim brothers from Vonte.
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:So we started the first Juma prayer in
high school at Von Steuben in:
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:And he sponsored it voluntarily.
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:And he said, I'll watch him
'cause we need to have a sponsor
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:and talk to the principal.
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:So Dr.
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:Gods, who later on became the
principal of the school too before,
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:after I left, kind of had that.
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:So just the idea of how a person
could impact you spiritually
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:from athletic standpoint and
just the idea of just academics.
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:so those were kind of my three up to
high school that played a major part.
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:And, you know, from the academia side
and then from, you know, from the
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:spiritual side, you know, Sunday school
teachers, but min Muslim youth through
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:North America was a big thing to me.
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:Imam's, sage back in the days because
most of the items I knew were from back
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:home were like, you know, how to connect.
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:mail Lord, reward that man.
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:I mean, I, me, so it's a huge part.
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:I, me.
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:Imam Tariq: so you were a ball player,
you were, you played for Von Steuben.
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:Yes, sir.
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:And so one of the things that I
think many people recognize that,
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:especially at that age, that it's
really difficult to be, independent.
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:it's difficult, you know, we are more
likely to try to blend into the crowd.
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:We don't wanna stand out.
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:And here you are on the
side of the court praying.
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:Habib Quadri: Yeah.
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:Imam Tariq: So what were some of the
things for you that helped you to have
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:that kind of, confidence, that kind
of independence at such a young age?
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:Habib Quadri: I mean, I have to give it
to my, my, my parents, you know, both,
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:you know, they were quite involved in the
community and the idea of being proud.
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:I was still nervous.
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:So my freshman year in high
school, I was kinda like, you
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:know, I'm gonna go home and pray.
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:But sports played such a big part.
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:So Vonte had no football team.
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:Basketball, was it?
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:By my sophomore year, I got
to play varsity and hamma.
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:I did, you know, somewhat,
you know, played well.
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:Where are your legend?
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:Hamma?
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:Yeah.
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:Yeah.
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:I saw the article.
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:so and so with that played a ca I
mean, that was a catapult, right?
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:Because that gave me confidence, okay.
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:You know, I'm captain by junior,
senior, you know, junior, senior year.
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:I was averaging double
digits all three years.
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:so I had that, opportunity and I
got to play like at a, you know,
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:back then au Circuits knock.
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:I was there, it was only a few teams.
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:So I used to go practice at Carini Green.
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:I would have to take the
Olive and and I think Sedgwick
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:Park, and so on North Avenue.
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:And so I remember Larry be, the coach
would pick me up on the train station,
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:get me what, how to get practice.
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:So that gave me just confidence,
like, all right, I could be a part.
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:And that gave me platform just to
speak my comfortable enough to say.
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:So my sophomore year I was like,
you know, I'm gonna start praying.
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:And then that's where I was like, Hey,
I'm gonna be confident of who I am.
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:And you know what also hopped
at that time was the nineties.
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:Malcolm X came out my sophomore,
junior year of the movie.
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:Then you got a public enemy
representing, you know, Islam, right?
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:So you had a lot of, you had the
five percenters and all that.
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:So it was kind of like.
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:You know, people like, and then even
individuals like the, you, like the
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:Vice Lords and Four Corners, they
used Fat had in some of their, you
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:know, j Jeff o you know, some of kin.
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:So there's a little, again,
I'm not promoting it, but I'm
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:saying, so kids had parcel things.
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:So now my whole team was, guys from
fte, everyone came from all over, It
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:was like, it was one of those where
you have to apply to get into school.
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:So I had individuals from everywhere and
my whole basketball team mostly lived
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:on the west side and the south side.
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:So I kind of had, you know, so it
was kind of these conversations.
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:Two of the brothers became Muslim,
you know, about my senior year.
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:So that played, I think that
helped me because that something
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:I'd be like, okay, platform.
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:I'm confident enough to
say something about it.
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:and then from there I was like, okay, how
do I get others to kind of buy into it?
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:And so social stuff that was going on
at the, at the hip hop world, the movie
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:by sports, you know, and I mean, again,
unless tophi that happened that, and
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:I always felt man, you know, how do I
become, and my father always said, he
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:goes, look, when you have that platform,
you could have a platform to make change.
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:Or you could just sit there
and just be like, be the norm.
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:And so I think for him, you know,
being a part of the MSA in sixties and
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:all these small things, I'm like, all
right, you know what, let's take that.
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:and now then I always felt you
know, 'cause you know, when I grew
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:up, I got picked on, even when I
up playing ball, everywhere I went,
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:there was always some comment.
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:I remember foreman in high
school playing basketball, and
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:this is person golf war right?
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:In the nineties.
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:So I'm like a sophomore
having a good game.
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:They all start chatting.
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:U-S-A-U-S-A, there's, you know,
'cause they're like, Hey, Saddam,
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:there's like Saddam's there, right?
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:So they used to call me Saddam coming in.
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:you know, just getting all the
time, Hindu, you know, whatever.
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:In the movie Gandhi came on when I was
in the elementary, especially where
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:we, where I went to elementary school,
we were like the first Indians to
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:move into that neighborhood, right?
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:So they used to bus in an
Afro-American bus and a lot of,
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:other, like Southeast Asian kids.
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:So when I lived there, the first,
so there was a lot kinda picked.
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:So when I felt like I had a, you know,
like a spot to make it easy for others.
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:So that's why I remember my junior,
senior year, I'd be like, all
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:All these Muslim kids make sure
any problems you gotta tell me.
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:You know, how do you
keep everyone in check?
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:and I'm telling you, B Ball gave
that credibility that's why I
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:have so much love for my coaches.
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:Imam Tariq: So you were put in a position
of leadership, through sports somehow?
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:Yes.
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:and that translated into, basically
into the social, network as well.
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:A hundred percent.
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:Habib Quadri: I mean, I was captain.
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:I mean, I'm just kind of, just for the
sake of information, I hope doesn't
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:come off like I'm bragging, but Yeah.
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:in middle school I was a captain of the JV
basketball team Of, of the park district.
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:and it kind of gave, and so we played up.
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:So then that's where I, you know,
I was like, okay, that then,
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:you know, I was part of the big
Brother sister, you know, program.
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:So that idea of Sunday school
taught Sunday school, so like
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:another kind of, kind of thing.
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:And maybe that it is kind
of lead into something else.
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:But I used to complain
about Sunday School.
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:Oh, really?
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:And and I was like, you know, my father,
my dad said, look, we're trying our best.
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:So when I was 14, when I graduated
Sunday school in ninth grade, my dad
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:said, well, don't you do something
about it, like uptake, complaining.
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:So I taught preschool, pe a
kindergarten, first graders as an aide.
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:Then I became a teacher, second,
third grade, then later on.
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:So that kind of, kind of got me into that
involved and community said, well, you
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:know, you could be a complaint on, you
know, everyone always complains, even deal
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:with the community, You be the community.
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:Everyone's always on the side.
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:The Monday, you know, you know, Monday
morning quarterback, the Sunday morning
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:quarterback for Jim, my quarterback
always got this didn't go right.
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:so I was like, all So that kind of
played me that path of like sports and
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:kind of, the credibility and I'm allowed
just in its own ways, made it happen.
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:Imam Tariq: So leaders definitely have to
be able to, or at least effective leaders,
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:have to be able to, analyze themselves,
be able to look at what they're doing,
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:to see what works, what's not working.
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:At what point did you recognize
your own ability to, to lead?
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:Habib Quadri: I, I.
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:And it is funny because I
was a shy guy, a shy kid.
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:When I was young at home, I was creative.
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:so my dad, we didn't
watch too much TV at home.
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:So I used to kind of, and I had a
sister who's five years older than
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:me, so I used to make up games
thinking I'm playing basketball,
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:throw the ball, jump on the sofa.
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:You know, cats like, so especially
back then, we had no phone.
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:so I had this creativity and
my mom, and it is funny, my
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:dad never knew of my jokes.
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:Like in middle school,
you know, camps and stuff.
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:I started doing like skits.
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:So a guy named Zerman was a comedian
that you might have known Zerman.
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:And so we used to do skits together,
improv, and so that's why I kind of
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:knew, I had okay, some form where I
could speak, feel confident, but yeah,
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:I, if it had to be something sports
because right when the coach was like,
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:I could get people together, people
kind of listen and maybe me being the
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:only like ethnic student, you know,
kid to, and to have that respect at the
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:school that kind of be like, okay, wait
a minute, Allah's giving me something.
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:And my dad's look, you know, sometimes
a lot gives you some qualities.
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:Are you gonna use it for the good or not?
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:And that's where I was like,
all right, how do we navigate?
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:and then the idea of was like,
okay, learning from others.
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:And I think I always, you know, my mom
always told me, every person you see,
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:there's something you can learn from.
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:And I've always tried to look at
someone, something you don't want.
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:Like even my parents say there's
good in us and there's bad in us.
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:So the good take from it and the things
you don't like about it improve on it.
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:and that's something I kind of realized.
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:And so I think that's what
I kind of started realizing.
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:So by the time I went to MSA, so
at the, in the Muslim club, how
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:to give the, I was like, you know,
like how to train ourselves, right?
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:Because if you're gonna make
things happen, and so the MSA
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:part of the MSA part of minimal
meet the North American Hospital.
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:But my junior senior year, then I
started realizing, all right, you know,
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:unless I think I got have something.
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:But you never know how it manifests
as when you have others encourage you.
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:And I think that played a big part
of our, like the minute camps where
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:you, where they let the youth, that's,
you know, four youth buy youth,
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:so you have to make all the phone
calls to the campsite and all that.
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:I mean, this is old school
mailing stuff, writing letters.
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:So you build these like skill sets.
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:Imam Tariq: So Minna was also
really a big part of your formation.
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:Habib Quadri: You know, for me,
because a lot of the, I grew up grew
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:by, you know, like they, many of
the first Oma were from back home.
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:So they're like, what is
this playing sports like?
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:So like I didn't watch too much tv.
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:You know, I had that radio, you sneak
and listen to the radio and your dad
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:does it, you know, can't hear you.
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:B 96 you had one 7.5
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:WGCI don't triple dot that I, that's
all Chicago people would know that one.
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:That's right.
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:So top nine at nine.
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:so you would sneak, you
know, sneak that radio.
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:So it was like, you know, even like the
Bulls games, I listen to 'em on the radio.
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:You know, you know, because,
so it was really this idea of,
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:you know, this experience of.
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:of life of kind of figuring things out
and just kind of navigating through 'em.
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:So it was funny.
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:Imam Tariq: Now, you said Mr.
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:Earl was a big, was a
big inspiration for you.
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:Yes.
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:So that, I would imagine that
was just in general, you say,
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:man, I wanna be a teacher.
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:I wanna be in education.
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:Yes.
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:When did the specificity start
to present itself for you as
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:to what area of education?
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:and es especially as it relates
to educational leadership.
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:When did that, come about for you?
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:Habib Quadri: Yeah, so because of,
you know, high school, you know, I was
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:kind of involved in leadership roles,
college, I was MSA, then I knew I
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:wanted to go to education and I have
to, you know, so how lot, most people,
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:especially in our community would
become like engineers, doctors, right?
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:It was kinda like that.
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:You right.
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:My sister, she was a, like top
five in her high, but my dad let
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:her go to social work, right?
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:He's look, what can we help the community?
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:So my parents were the few, I was like,
you know, son, and we still remember.
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:I have no problem if you go into this
field, but bring back the nobility
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:and their Noble Pro profession.
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:if you're gonna do it,
you gotta go hardcore.
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:you don't want people to be like, ah,
you know, he's just a community kid.
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:You know, they just, you know,
they don't want to go full force.
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:So he just thought he could do this.
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:So I think that played a big part.
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:So I knew, because I was always
working with kids, did camps, did
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:run haahs at the, you know, at the
ji like first part of the haah then,
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:you know, you know, doing stuff.
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:So then I realized, hey, this
could be something I like,
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:and my parents did push back.
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:They say, Hey, just go full force.
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:So that kind of helped.
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:But I knew I wanted to be a principal,
so I liked teaching so studies, but
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:I was like, Hey, I want to kind of
point where you can make changes.
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:So I, you know, worked in Chicago
public schools and Detroit public
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:schools, you know, and so my whole
thing was to kinda move fast.
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:So I was like, okay, I wanna teach,
do my master's at night, be part
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:of the director of afterschool
activities, what I could do.
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:'cause I, you know, I felt like
I had some, you know, parts of,
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:kind of some leadership skills.
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:So building those skills.
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:And that's why I was telling
people who are listening for young.
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:S those things are running clubs,
being a part helps build life skills.
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:And so by the time you get to
the workforce, you have some of
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:these things that majority of
other people don't have, right?
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:Those social te and technical skills.
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:'cause everyone could be smart,
cognitive, but those that hustle.
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:The other things, like we, I
remember we started a company
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:called Salon Wear when 1516.
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:We wore you know, like lumm shirts, like
back in the days and sold them at isna.
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:you know, like small little kind of,
you know, businesses you try to do.
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:So I realized having those skill
sets, talking to people, trying
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:to sell to people, you're work,
you're working on life skills.
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:And I think that kind of all kind of
came into place and in education I
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:always felt man, you know, where, you
know, where, when I, 'cause I used to
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:practice that, you know, the other thing
was a project education plus if anyone
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:lives in Chicago, please support that.
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:Organization's been there for 50 years.
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:that Mr.
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:Carter where, when I used to
practice for travel team, so I
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:used to tutor in college there.
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:Yeah.
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:In Ka green, they back before they
turned, they, to turned out the projects.
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:So a lot of my thought was, you know,
impact and I felt man, you know, you
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:know, we just need people to really
help out individuals go through life
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:lessons and, you know, growing pains.
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:And so I always felt that
was something I wanted to do.
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:And Hamal, I just kept
on going into Hatfield.
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:Imam Tariq: What's your
vision for education?
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:Habib Quadri: So for me it's, I, there's
I think four parts for me, right?
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:So one part becomes, there's this
cognitive, I want to, okay, you want,
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:you wanna give them, you know, the life
tools, To be successful in this world.
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:But it's not just this idea of hey,
just knowing stuff, remote learning,
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:like learning or just rote memory.
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:But the other part, I feel
like education is the social
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:emotional development of people.
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:Now they're kind of picking
this up and saying, I.
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:Hey, being conscious of what's going
on in the world from a social stu ju
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:justice standpoint, having empathy
for people, understanding that you're
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:not just here for making sure you are
taken care of, but how do you make
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:I always tell our kids, if you help
God's creation, God will help you.
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:And I think that became a, that
aspect of building these life skills.
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:So that's why for me, I always say,
when I came to Islamic education,
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:I said, look, we're giving the
necessary tools so that they can become
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:productive citizens in this society,
but also productive, not productive,
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:but the citizens agenda, right?
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:You're trying to give 'em both these
skill sets and then a lot of it's, and
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:our dean is mostly about good character
and mah dealing with individuals, right?
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:So Salah will take care of em.
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:You gotta take those foundations.
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:But if we could just tell 'em
about life skills and stuff,
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:I think that was kind of huge.
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:And from my own experience where
some of the, when I met I was like,
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:man, they're just so rigid, so tough.
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didn't felt right to me.
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:So then finally I was like, you know, how
can we come back to how the prophet was?
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:and I think that's kinda that changed.
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:So it's funny because on Fridays I
dress up, so I have like costumes.
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:I'll be Batman, Superman, I might
just have different, panda hat.
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:So I'm dressed up in various ways.
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:So when I first came to an Islamic
school from a public school,
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:Imam Tariq: yeah,
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:Habib Quadri: right.
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:There was like seven principals
in the first 14 years.
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:you know, Fridays I'm like, hey.
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up, I know kids are gonna say,
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:they're like, gimme high fives.
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:oh, Mr.
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:K, you're so silly.
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:You're the silly principal.
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:So some parents, 'cause many of the
parents when I first started there,
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:there were, you know, back home and
they're like, brother, you know, you
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:know, you know, back home when we saw
our principal, we would look down, right?
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:And we'd be fear scared of him.
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:We'd be fear.
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:I said, they're like, okay, you
know, but you know, you know, I think
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:you're being too friendly because
they're not gonna respect you.
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:I said, I know that you respected
your principles out of fear, but.
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:First of all, that's not my culture.
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:I said, my culture is our prophet Saam,
and you tell me when Haddi, that the
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:prophet walked around and all the kids
ran away from him, and they looked down.
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:They all wanted to be by him.
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:Everybody wanted to be by him.
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:So I said, I'd rather have kids wanna
respect me outta love and not outta fear.
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:And that's, we gotta come back to
what makes it, what makes the, our
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:dean beautiful is to have these
interactions and making the, you
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:know, you know, smiling, seeing 'em
at the door, and kind of have that,
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:Re is when they're in trouble.
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:If I don't, if I like doing parking
duty, because I could see the
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:parent sound go, how you doing?
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:How go there?
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:And that's the only time I see
them is Hey, what's going on?
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:Like, when I was in Detroit Public Schools
every week I used to call two parents.
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:I'm like, Hey, so go, I mean, sorry.
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:Hey, how you doing Mrs.
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:Mrs.
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:Johnson.
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:She was like, she was,
you're telling me like, wait.
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:Tyrone, I'm just wanna tell you, I'm just
excited to have Tyrone in my CL like.
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:Wait a minute, he's not in trouble.
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:I'm like, no, I'm just wanna call you.
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:He's you're the first person I
ever called just to say positive.
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:I was like, I just wanna start
off, you know, with a, you
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:know, a positive relationship.
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:Just wanna tell you if
there's anything you need.
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:And I think what we have to do is that
human nature of what brought everyone
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:Yes.
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:The revelation was wa he,
that's the biggest miracle.
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:But the other miracle is that
everyone loved the prophet.
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:And then I think that's where, you
know, I feel that's a new form education
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:we need to do is like inculcating
the that, not to just to sit on
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:the outside, which is important.
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:No, I'm not.
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:I'm please anyone who hears this, I'm not.
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:But man, if we could just be just people
like, I like being around this person.
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:This person's good, this person's
always smiling because smile, being
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:religious doesn't mean you can't smile.
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:That's right.
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:And that's when I grew up,
that's how like the culture was.
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:It was like, you just, Allah
doesn't want you to do this.
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:And the more religious you're Sam, right?
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:Oh, And I was like, so and so that was
that whole kind of changing philosophy of
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:like the truth are beyond in character.
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:Imam Tariq: What were some of the
challenges that you had and going from,
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:public school to an Islamic school?
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:Habib Quadri: Oh, yes.
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:Yeah.
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:So for Islamic schools, as you said,
so there's, and especially in the
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:nineties, those are growing pains.
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:Growing pains, right?
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:Yeah.
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:That seven principles in the first
14 years, there's every two years.
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:Right now, even average Islamic school
principal is like four years, right?
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:You're dealing with community boards.
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:Some of 'em are not in the field of
education, maybe highly successful, but
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:that doesn't mean, you know, have that.
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:And like you're imam you're dealing with
personalities and so on and so forth.
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:And when you're Islam school principal,
you're not just, it's not just a school.
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:Then you got religion.
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:Like our school has 56
different countries.
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:That means you got a lot cultural,
religious standpoints too.
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:Just kind of coming in and navigating
those conversations and kind of
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:getting everyone to move forward.
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:And especially when you have a history of
people like, oh, there's a new principal.
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:I had to just change the climate and
culture even to a point I first year
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:I remember saying, all right, sister.
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:and so brother said, we're stopping that.
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:This is not Sunday school.
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:We're gonna So Mr.
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:Mr.
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:So and just to change that and say,
okay, this is not Sunday school.
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:This is not after school loo program.
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:This is not youth group.
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:We're gonna change some systems.
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:And I was like 26 at that time, or
27 and some of the, because I came
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in, so I knew a lot of the people.
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:So many of 'em were aunties to me.
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:So I remember I said eight to
four, I'm gonna call you Mr.
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:So and Mr.
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:So and after four o'clock,
I'll call you Auntie Soandso.
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:You know, they're like, Hey beta.
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:You know, I'm like, okay, after
four you can call me beta.
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:All you like, I have no problem, but we're
gonna change, you know, kind of have that.
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:So climate culture was one people
buying into like we could become great.
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:Like I've had the opportunity to go
to Exeter visit like some of the top.
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:middle schools that, Andovers, like even
Harvard, how does Harvard become Harvard?
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:How does Notre Dame become Notre Dame?
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:So all went through the growing pains.
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:And so our thing is if we can stick
it through work, hard work, we could
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:become who we can because the sister
Clara Muhammad schools Mela bless her.
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:She's they're, it's not, she's the og.
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:And the idea is if you could have an
opportunity where edu great education
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and a strong understanding of who
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:they are, that's a game changer.
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look, we have to buy into assignment
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could go to this school district.
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:I'm like, we could do it.
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:Our subs, if we all pitch in and
buy into this, it can't happen.
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:It can't happen because we got the
talent we have, you know, and slowly
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at the end we have a lot on our side.
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our kids we do our best.
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:we just can't limit ourselves.
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where, you know, I had the
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:Like I, I remember in
:
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:can I just see what, why
not what, what's happening?
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:What's the development?
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:You know, how can we take improve?
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:And I think we have to all learn
from each other what people have done
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done in the past, and how do we keep
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:moving forward and making, and my
whole thing is not just making our
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:you know, for me, I'm
like, I'm American, right?
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:And I like the podcast, we,
American Muslims, right?
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:Muslim Americans, however people
wanna call it Muslim American Muslim.
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:But the idea is my cultural
habits are a lot more American
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:than they might be Indian.
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:But faith dictates my life and about how
do we, and there's nothing wrong for us.
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:so stuff like challenges during the 4th of
July parade, people are like, oh my god.
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:Having Native Dean do a concert,
some parents go, you know, you
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:know, our, just different, we had,
za Bika, all these people, like
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:changing people's thought process.
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:Okay.
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:How do we balance respecting both sides?
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trying to move forward for that,
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:that Muslim American experience.
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:Imam Tariq: You know, it's interesting
that you say, respecting differing,
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:opinions, you know, without
necessarily favoring one or another.
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:But has there been situations
where in respecting and recognizing
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:those differing opinions that
it's led to a sort of a paralysis?
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:Or how do you avoid that?
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:Habib Quadri: Yeah.
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:and that's why even for example, at
our school, we might say, Hey, we are
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:Sunni Muslims, so we have Shia students.
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:We say, Hey, they could come, but we
are, we're just going to teach the C
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:of the prophet through all khalifas.
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:and the she.
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:And now when, then when they pray,
we say, Hey, you're welcome to pray.
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:We have no problem.
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:'cause kids are, you know,
different schools of thought.
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:But even for Shafi, I
just kinda have that.
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:We say, Hey, everything's there.
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:But we said, Hey, you know, the one
of 'em, when they put the the car,
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:the stone, we said, okay, that one,
hey, that's gonna, we feel, hey,
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:that might be a little bit too much.
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:You want a piece of paper or whatever.
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:There's ways, how do we
accommodate, but we still have
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:to say these are our parameters.
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:Hey, so for example, give and
take, we had native dean in
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:all these, speaker, musicians.
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:But we said, okay, it only
can be duff drums, right?
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:We're not gonna let them play any guitar
and stuff and say that, that, you know,
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:like, how do we go in between to kind of
still make sure that's there, but that
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:means we decided here's our two, three
scholars and we're gonna go with them.
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:'cause if I go, everyone brings
their fatwas, we're gonna go nuts.
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:I can't.
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:So how do you say, okay,
this is what we're gonna do.
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:This is how our process is gonna
stand from religious standpoints.
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:So when you have even those
kids with meat, they said.
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:Oh my.
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:You know, some parents might
be hardcore eha, right?
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:And then you might have someone
who's gonna drop off some McDonald's,
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:you know, chicken, chicken nuggets,
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:Imam Tariq: right?
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:Habib Quadri: And you got a first grader.
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:I'm talking about a first grader, and
sometimes parents I can't believe you.
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:I was like, at first grade's
oh my God, what are you eating?
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:But Bob said, that's hurrah, right?
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:And now we have to have a navigated
conversation that parents like,
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:are we teaching that our school?
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:I'm like, no, we are not.
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:We're gonna say, Hey, we promote when
we're providing food Zaha at school.
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:We say, look, there are different
schools, but even at first grade,
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:they're too young to have that.
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:But some parents make that and you
know, that little kid becomes like the,
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:you know, the Muslim police, right?
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:so that's where we have to have
these and say, Hey, you know what?
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:This is sometimes to happen.
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:This is how we, what our conversations is.
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:And then we wanna say, this
is in the circle of our dean.
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:There are different views.
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:This is what we're, you know, and
we're even in our, in, in SUNY Islam,
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:we're teaching mostly hundred vfi,
but we explain all the other fix too.
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:And say, Hey, if you're raising
your hand, you put your hands
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:up here, or our, or you say.
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:You know, you know, one time
another ham and you say twice, Hey.
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:And we give people both options
just to kind of, to grow in that
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:path, especially living here.
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:Even my father says, he goes,
I learned more about Islam
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:here than I learned back home.
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:Imam Tariq: Because it
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:Habib Quadri: opens
your eyes to everything
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:Imam Tariq: because of the, diversity.
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:Yes.
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:so education, we often hear it
said education is transformational.
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:how has your pursuit of education,
and then I would even add the
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:application of what you've learned,
how has that transformed you?
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:Habib Quadri: Yeah.
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:You know, I think one is that
you're always learning, right?
619
:Education.
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:My, my whole thing is every
day you're kind of picking up.
621
:That's why, you know, one thing I always
say that you learn from everyone, right?
622
:And then you could pick up what things
you could do, what things you're
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:not to do, what we think are better.
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:So that's why I think I realized one
thing for me, you know, is always
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:reflecting, like all profits reflected.
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:You know, I just, we just kind of finished
this one book called Prophetic Leadership.
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:And so the first chapter I kind of
thought about was Hey, the prophets all
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:used to sit and kind of self-reflect.
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:And I feel like in education
you will always have to say
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:what can we do to become better?
631
:What are we not doing?
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:And then, so that's why,
because kids change too.
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:So the idea is that hey, a child
from 20 years ago, a kid now, and
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:now you have to be more soft skills.
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:you know, kids are more, were
tough love when we grew up.
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:Anyone uncle could say, tell me anything.
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:It'd be like, it's done now.
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:You gotta be like, oh, my kid.
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:Child's feelings could
be hurt how he's there.
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:So you gotta be very careful
what it's said, how it's said,
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:what could get triggered.
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:But I'm just saying, I can't believe this.
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:I'm saying, okay, that's how it is.
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:How do I navigate our conversations?
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:And training ourselves to say, okay,
the demographics of the students,
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:the personalities of the students,
the, their thought process, the
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:ideologies, and we have to do that.
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:So even now, Islamic studies classes
where we now talk about existence of
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:God in seventh, eighth grade, where
because we see that's like the ideologies
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:becoming more and more popular in college.
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:So we say we gotta get our
kids foundational stuff.
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:It's Simon social issues.
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:When we wrote like the whirlwind
and the hearts book and brought
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:it into school like seven to eight
years ago, like pornography, they're
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:like, how to carry you Simon Scholar
School schools ripped that pages off.
656
:I said, look, whatever ones
you feel comfortable to use.
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:Use, But I'm like, this is reality.
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:But now even stuff like gender
issues and LBGT, we're like, okay,
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:we have to have these conversations.
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:Not even eighth grade,
even fourth, fifth grade.
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:So people have to realize,
hey, things have to change.
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:Educational topics might be changing to
when it's gonna be changed to what age?
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:Things are changing.
664
:And I think that's the idea of always
being flexibility and being transformative
665
:and being adaptive to the groups of
individuals that we're working with
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:to the parents and the community and
what's going on, at large, right?
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:Of how do we respond?
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:Even political issues.
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:How do we say, when do we say be careful?
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:What have that, what's going on?
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:How do our mind should think?
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:And I think, and really also understanding
more than ever before that you are in
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:this country and we pray for this country.
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:We have love for this country, and
how do we make this country better?
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:It should be our thing just like our
own community and our own families.
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:Imam Tariq: So when you talked about
Harvard and, culture and any elite
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:institution, an institution that is
kind of synonymous with excellence,
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:what have you brought to and
learned from being in those spaces?
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:Habib Quadri: the, you know, one of
the beauties and allah's blessings
681
:that I have the opportunity to be
there and still be there and is.
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:This idea of on constantly learning
and going, they're always looking
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:at the newest research and what I've
always liked about it, it's research
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:and then put it into practical.
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:So my job is a lot of that,
the tenure professors is how to
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:break that down to practitioners.
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:And then kind of having synergy.
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:So we go, like every year we
go and visit different states.
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:Like we went to New Orleans
schools, Oakland schools,
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:you know, Chicago schools.
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:And they'll say, Hey, what are some
great things that are happening?
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:How do we share and what, you know,
and out what the newest research
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:and ongoing pursuit of not being
satisfied of what, what's going on?
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:So I think that's something like, I
always kinda man, they're always thinking
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:of, Hey, what's the newest thing?
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:What's there?
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:What's Ray?
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:Hey Habib, did you read this?
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:People are sharing articles.
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:Which of 'em always like, all
right, you know, this is great.
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:So I think that's, that,
that becomes there.
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:The other thing is investing within.
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:And so one of that, that networking right.
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:Hey, you're a graduate.
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:Hey, what do we do?
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:How do we keep making sure
that we're proud of who we are?
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:So even like our own assignment
school, our mom was we are proud
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:that we have two of our own,
alumni on our school board now.
709
:Or having about 30, 40 of our kids,
kids now at our school, at least what,
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:you know, in my last 20 years, right?
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:Having them be volunteers for this.
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:Like how do we have them buy
into like our, that your success
713
:is our success and we want this
success for the future generation.
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:And they're kind of having, you
know, that the Harvard name goes,
715
:there's Hey, how do you, why can't
MC be where people say, hey, they're
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:trying to get better and better now.
717
:oh, some schools.
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:And I think that's where I feel like
now they saw skate where the first
719
:five, 10 years, they're like, how
do we just be sustainable to, hey,
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:now let's kinda get some quality.
721
:But now it's well, how do we become elite?
722
:You know, where you want things to like.
723
:We gotta look at all that.
724
:So every five, six years we do strategic
plans and say, Hey, we need counselors.
725
:We need social emotionals.
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:We need to do that.
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:Oh, we don't have a financial base.
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:Well, how do we get there?
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:How do we keep pushing
ourselves to become better?
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:And I think that's where the things I've
kind of see what great schools that at
731
:least recognize as great schools is.
732
:They all started 200 years ago.
733
:Harvard started from Andover and
Exeter that later on, Puritan
734
:that said, Hey, let's have our own
religious, faith-based university.
735
:And it became who they are.
736
:Why can't we become like, why can't A,
you know what, how Cairo, fa all these
737
:places, let us be those top universities.
738
:You know, India used to be,
but why are we stopping?
739
:Why do we just kind of be like, like some
of, we have some of the greatest talents
740
:working for all these great, companies.
741
:why don't they just believe in themselves
and say we could do it ourselves.
742
:you know?
743
:And so I think that's, that the
self, oh, you know, it's gotta
744
:be, oh, we gotta work with them.
745
:no, we gotta be proud of who we are.
746
:We have a great history.
747
:We have Allah on our side, and one
way the most diverse faiths right.
748
:From all over, if we just You know, like,
how do we just synergize to a next level?
749
:And I think that's something that we,
you know, you know, the Harvard alums
750
:are always kind of working together.
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:We got this bigger alum, you know, Islam.
752
:So Yeah.
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:How do you synergize together?
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:Imam Tariq: Yeah.
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:Habib Quadri: So that's why for
me, it's like Islamic schools.
756
:You know, we, we're the only, in
Illinois 15, 20 years ago, we decided
757
:to have like coalition of Islamic
schools together, where every two
758
:months the principals meet together.
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:So we're not competing with each other.
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:Let's help each other speed
up our learning curve.
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:How do we do that?
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:You know, like something like, you know,
I'm like, Hey, let's all meet together.
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:I think we could do this.
764
:And now we build that relationship
that it's not competition, it's about
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:it know, you know, recognition and
try to help each other become better.
766
:Imam Tariq: When people are, I, I guess
part of the social fabric and what we
767
:kinda get used to here is this idea of
competing everything is about establishing
768
:your foothold in the marketplace,
whatever marketplace you're in.
769
:So if you're in an educational
marketplace, you wanna, you want to have,
770
:you wanna get all the students, right?
771
:You wanna have the
long, long waiting list.
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:But you're talking about this coalition
of Islamic students, Islamic schools.
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:What part does humility
play in all of this?
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:and is that something that, you
have to be conscious of in terms of,
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:leadership and organizing, groups?
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:Yeah.
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:No, I'm, you know,
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:Habib Quadri: it's one of the
things I realize, the student of
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:Allah to prophets wasn't easy.
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:And I feel like you are
my own massage community.
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:Our work, it's not gonna be easy.
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:People get frustrated
and I tell people like.
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:But why is it in corporate America
someone tells you to do something?
784
:No, no problem, sir.
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:I'll do it.
786
:because you wanna move up because you
see there's a financial benefit, right?
787
:I said, and so this is where I think,
is that yes, we want our schools to
788
:be good and I wanna push, and I, you
know, you want people to be like,
789
:Hey, I wanna be here or be happy.
790
:But why?
791
:I was like, look, but I wanna make
sure if I make others happy, because
792
:at the end, my employer is Allah.
793
:And especially in this
field, universal success, all
794
:access, success, they do well.
795
:And there's something I learned
from them and they learn from me.
796
:our school, we're all
gonna get gen money, right?
797
:It's just gonna be the straight
up you know, kind of coming in
798
:and saying, look, that happens.
799
:And that's where in saying, I'm making
money with someone else's success.
800
:But it might not be, you
know, like monetarily.
801
:But I think that's where
that key comes there.
802
:Now, that doesn't mean boards
who are listening to this, oh,
803
:you still gotta pay our people.
804
:No, no doubt about it.
805
:But this other idea of Hey, if we all
come together to work together, man,
806
:it's, it, we just be rocking and rolling.
807
:Just if all countries or Muslim
countries is man, we could
808
:just put our minds together.
809
:there's numbers in ours
too, and the talent level.
810
:So that's where I think what's been
a blessing where even my board's,
811
:like letting me go to different
cities and so on and so forth.
812
:and for me it was like, Hey, can, I
mean, one of the reasons, like when
813
:the, when our school won the national
ward, for me, it wasn't about me.
814
:I was like, all you guys
did this happen together?
815
:And for me it was, I was more excited
that a Islamic schools could do this.
816
:We can academically increase our scores.
817
:We could be financially
responsible, we could have a
818
:school climate and culture, right?
819
:The categories that they, we
were com you know, competing.
820
:For me, I like competing against other
public schools and Hey, we could be them.
821
:Like, why are we always well.
822
:The, those elites private schools?
823
:No.
824
:You, we could be those elite private
schools by putting our minds together
825
:and looking at the greater good like
the archdiocese and saying, well,
826
:how do we make all our schools well?
827
:So like we, we, you know, having the
CNAs and the ULAs and some schools
828
:of League of America that's there.
829
:And that's why for me, when I was
early in my years, I wanted to
830
:know, because the sister Clara
Muhammad schools were like 70, 80.
831
:They were like, huge.
832
:So what was your success?
833
:I was trying to read up on her, right?
834
:okay, what was that philosophy and
what's there, what kind of kept it going?
835
:What were the areas that, you know,
what kind of stopped that process?
836
:So all these things we gotta learn from,
because in saying those are things that
837
:we have to learn from our own communities,
and saying, kind of building there.
838
:And I think, and we have to, you
know, I, I think throughout being
839
:a social studies teacher, I.
840
:The only, the greatest way people
have historically, what we've
841
:always looked at, every country
organization divide and conquer.
842
:Yes.
843
:Through financial, through
fame, through whatever.
844
:And God tells us about it, and
we still get caught up in it.
845
:And I wanna protect myself, a pair
of all of us that you know, that,
846
:you know, because, you know, you
know, things come and shaan gets
847
:and things and you, that Allah makes
our hearts sincere in our work.
848
:but it, and it has to because I
think being a association where you
849
:see it and you hear about, we know
what's happening and we still let,
850
:making it happen is just not cool.
851
:Imam Tariq: I want to bring in,
one of your works, and I think you
852
:referenced it a little bit earlier.
853
:the war within our hearts, thinking about
this in terms of, leadership, all the
854
:responsibilities that you have, right?
855
:you're not a classroom teacher, right?
856
:You're superintendent and the
traveling, we haven't even
857
:talked about your consulting.
858
:but from a time management standpoint,
give a bit of insight for those
859
:who are also in positions of
leadership, but also feel like I
860
:have something else to offer as well.
861
:How are you able to manage that?
862
:Habib Quadri: first thing I learned from
one of the sheiks, you make the, you
863
:gotta make ua, I love ika in your time.
864
:that's my first one.
865
:I would say, you gotta make
dua when you go to sleep.
866
:I love ika in my sleep.
867
:So that six hour sleep
is a tight, good sleep.
868
:I love Ika in my meeting before this talk.
869
:I love ika in me, you know, I help me say
the right words, And I'm still gonna make
870
:a lot of mistakes, but, Having that's one.
871
:The second thing is, people
always talk about time management.
872
:I'm a thing is that, that time management,
it's called priority management.
873
:What's important to you?
874
:That's what's gonna happen
because, so for me, it's like,
875
:there's a few things, right?
876
:So I know I, if it's not education
or youth, I don't get involved.
877
:So people are like, oh, I want
you to be a bear, a board on.
878
:it's not board.
879
:I'm like, if it's not in that field or
unless I, that board part is to be, is
880
:in a full field, then I'm gonna be there.
881
:Or if it's not to help our community.
882
:'cause how do people wanna
get into everything, right?
883
:And I'm like, Hey, centralize
where, you know, you, this is
884
:where I could be really strong at.
885
:So for me, youth education and
I love sports, so that's just
886
:more of a passional thing, right?
887
:So now for me as a person, I'm like,
okay, I know faith is important.
888
:So am I blocking off my 30 minutes
or 40 minutes, whatever I have to do.
889
:Prayer sah, reading haddi when haddi.
890
:So I'm a small, I have my
attention deficit issue.
891
:So I'm a person that might do
something small, but doing consistent.
892
:So that just means read one haddi
day, just read one Haddi day.
893
:If that means just reading two pages of
Quran, just read two Kran, maybe Ramadan,
894
:you move it up to another whole level.
895
:But just doing certain things and
saying whatever that is, right?
896
:And the idea of constant growing and
the more you're in a leadership skills
897
:at, you know, thing what you know.
898
:and I think that, like Imam you know,
from California, Melo, bless him, he
899
:had once kind of said, he goes, look,
if you're in leadership skills, then you
900
:gotta do things where people don't know.
901
:And I said, what are those?
902
:He said, look, then that means fasting
at least once a month or once a month.
903
:'cause no one else knows
if you do that or not.
904
:and I'm weak and I, I don't think doing
it, but it's, I realize, and there has to
905
:be those small things that no one knows.
906
:But for me, like I realize
if it's not faith, then the
907
:other thing is family, right?
908
:So now I'm like, if I'm going,
that means like markups.
909
:Aah.
910
:You know, some people
like, I'm gonna pray.
911
:I'm like, no, I'm gonna pray as a
family, especially when they were young.
912
:Now they all high schools are everywhere,
but like when at least, hey, that's Salah.
913
:We're gonna pray as a family at
least Monday through Thursday.
914
:Wherever those are, hey, we have a
Sunday family Holocaust and say, Hey,
915
:look, even through Zoom, wherever you
are, you're still gonna lock in for
916
:30 minutes and we're gonna have that.
917
:I feel like those kind of skill sets play
a pig time exercise is important for me.
918
:So that means 30 minutes, four times
a week, you got exercise, you know?
919
:you know what's funny, I was in
California and your wife was there
920
:too, and she had a talk IIII get picked
up and she went for good morning run.
921
:You know, like I'm, we're
getting, we're leaving.
922
:I'm like, I was like, is that sister?
923
:You, And so that idea of you
keep your consistent thing right
924
:because I realized when people,
I was like, man, I wanna do this.
925
:I wanna do this and say, Hey, all
love's give us all skill sets.
926
:So some skill sets are flyers.
927
:I'm like, look, you could be the best.
928
:Flyer for our community person.
929
:There's this one sister,
she's awesome man.
930
:And that's all she does.
931
:But that's her way of giving
back to the community.
932
:One person who's our accountant, he
goes, he's CPA, he goes, I'm gonna
933
:volunteer and help out with our $6.9
934
:million and that's gonna volunteer.
935
:That's what a lot you, it's in your
realm, you know it well, and you're
936
:still giving to the community.
937
:And I think that's what people have to
realize and saying what's there, where
938
:sometimes people are in areas that they're
really not good at, but they want to
939
:be in there and it gets them frustrated
and then they get arguments and stuff
940
:and saying, know your role, know where
you are, and then kind of go through,
941
:I think kind of has that and, never I
estimate and then put timelines on stuff.
942
:Hey, I'm gonna do this.
943
:So for me, I, that means I
have to give up something.
944
:And what I give up is I
don't watch too much tv.
945
:Alright?
946
:So I might watch one hour, like
S-K-E-S-P-N gives me that sports
947
:center gives me everything fast.
948
:But like even now as I'm older, I
don't sit there and watch the whole
949
:game as maybe when I was younger.
950
:I'll watch the last watch 10 minutes,
like lot games where my son's
951
:Hey Bobby, gotta check this out.
952
:All right, I'm, you know,
turning it out or just watch the
953
:YouTube for seven, eight minutes.
954
:So how do you like pick and choose
where you still have your vice,
955
:but now kind of giving that or
looking at that certain time.
956
:So I think that, you know, it's
really, I call it priority management.
957
:What's important.
958
:You'll put those into place and
that means hanging out my friends.
959
:So I, you know, I might hang
out, I'll go for an hour.
960
:I said sitting out for three hours
and just You know, that's just me.
961
:But that, that someone who does it,
my show, more power to the people.
962
:But that it is what it is.
963
:Like I have two parents
who are really old.
964
:That's my priority first.
965
:I ha, you know, for me to go
three, four days a week just to be
966
:like, Hey, how's everything going?
967
:You know?
968
:So I think kind of putting those things
in Shava, a love guide all of us.
969
:Imam Tariq: I mean, I really, I love that.
970
:not time management,
but priority management.
971
:absolutely.
972
:Habib Quadri: Yes sir.
973
:Imam Tariq: And I'm also one who
I have not been able to watch a
974
:full basketball game for years.
975
:I watch the highlights.
976
:That's how I get it in, you know,
10 minutes and then I'm out.
977
:Habib Quadri: That, and
that's what it is, right?
978
:our kid at 10 15 is going to be
years old, they're important.
979
:So I realize I have to step away and
be like, we gotta prioritize that.
980
:I said I wanted that same moment, so I
have to realize what I put out myself.
981
:You can't do that to that 20-year-old,
realize that our own stages of growth.
982
:Imam Tariq: that's right.
983
:tell us a bit about founding high
quality educational consulting,
984
:Habib Quadri: high quality
education consulting.
985
:So one of the things happen is that,
alhamdulilah, as you know, for a lot
986
:of how the opportunity at blessed me
where I'm working at a university where
987
:it's highly respect, respected, so I was
like, how do I, we help other schools?
988
:And so a lot of times I used to just
volunteer my time and what happened was
989
:I realized sometimes people, they don't
take it seriously and give you advice.
990
:And I'm sitting there for an hour
or two did I realize, I realized I
991
:had to put a little cost to it for
people to just listen a little bit.
992
:And so my whole process was how do we.
993
:Speed up the learning curve and
the growing pains of schools.
994
:And that was the whole purpose of it.
995
:And so a lot of the work, we were kind of
going through ourselves, working in the
996
:youth, being part of MENA and all that.
997
:So I was like, that opportunity helped
out and then working overseas, right?
998
:So when we did the war within the hearts,
like I went to Kenya, you know, I went
999
:to Mombasa and Nekuru and a lot of that
stuff, like the same challenges that kids
:
00:43:42,286 --> 00:43:47,366
were having about clubs and drinks and,
like drinking and girls and all that.
:
00:43:47,546 --> 00:43:48,476
Those were challenges I had.
:
00:43:48,476 --> 00:43:50,936
The whole reason we wrote the book was
because when I asked Chef, why can't we
:
00:43:50,936 --> 00:43:52,616
do this ra, I'm like, what do you mean ra?
:
00:43:52,716 --> 00:43:54,666
I don't having these feelings, right?
:
00:43:54,671 --> 00:43:55,626
Am I the only one?
:
00:43:55,896 --> 00:43:58,806
And I'm telling you, when I wrote this,
we've got letters from Kabul, Afghanistan,
:
00:43:58,806 --> 00:44:02,556
and all these kids, man, we're not the
only one thinking like these challenges.
:
00:44:02,586 --> 00:44:04,776
And so I think that
became kind of this thing.
:
00:44:04,776 --> 00:44:08,196
so that, so the consulting come and came
was like, Hey, how we do workshops, how
:
00:44:08,196 --> 00:44:11,976
we have that, some do pro bono places that
we can, but then someone's if I could.
:
00:44:12,426 --> 00:44:14,736
And sometimes when ministry is called,
I was like, okay, that's where I
:
00:44:14,736 --> 00:44:15,936
feel like, okay, I could help out.
:
00:44:16,356 --> 00:44:20,136
And so that's, Hamal loves blessed me
now to visit about 13, 14 countries.
:
00:44:20,346 --> 00:44:22,926
So I've gone to from India,
Pakistan, small villages.
:
00:44:23,016 --> 00:44:24,006
Like it wasn't in Kenya.
:
00:44:24,276 --> 00:44:27,696
I did a whole presentation, like
150 ladies male to bless them.
:
00:44:28,056 --> 00:44:30,876
They're in the hot sun, I
just have a tent, right?
:
00:44:30,876 --> 00:44:32,946
And they're like, they didn't
have the thing for the slides.
:
00:44:33,006 --> 00:44:35,376
They're like, I'm like, look,
they're out here listening to me.
:
00:44:35,676 --> 00:44:36,276
I'm gonna make this.
:
00:44:36,276 --> 00:44:37,236
Don't worry about PowerPoint.
:
00:44:37,236 --> 00:44:38,946
I will make this happen.
:
00:44:39,126 --> 00:44:43,201
So now with technology gotten better,
I'm making small videos for everybody.
:
00:44:43,201 --> 00:44:46,471
So like that way when you go to places,
like they had to ask me, go to Afghani.
:
00:44:46,471 --> 00:44:47,851
I was like, look, there's some places.
:
00:44:47,851 --> 00:44:51,301
I was like, you know, just for
safety, security of economic videos.
:
00:44:51,301 --> 00:44:56,731
Because one of the things for me was also
reteaching Islamic studies, you know?
:
00:44:56,881 --> 00:44:59,731
And especially my co consulting is
not just on leadership and governance,
:
00:45:00,091 --> 00:45:03,811
but one of the focus, my whole
thing was is when we grew up, it
:
00:45:03,811 --> 00:45:05,076
was like, this is ra, that's Haram.
:
00:45:05,716 --> 00:45:08,206
And our dean is that we have
to have kids understanding.
:
00:45:08,256 --> 00:45:11,286
we are a generation that's asked
questions and it's not something that
:
00:45:11,286 --> 00:45:14,226
the prophet people, how do we know
what the prophet's personal life was?
:
00:45:14,376 --> 00:45:15,516
'cause people ask questions.
:
00:45:15,606 --> 00:45:18,306
So we act oh my God, these kids
in the west, we just ask 'em
:
00:45:18,306 --> 00:45:20,106
questions, everyone ask questions.
:
00:45:20,286 --> 00:45:23,256
But stuff here, people are more upfront
about back home, just kids didn't do
:
00:45:23,286 --> 00:45:24,846
taboo as long as parents didn't know.
:
00:45:25,146 --> 00:45:25,776
So I have these.
:
00:45:25,776 --> 00:45:30,196
So I think having these conversations and
stuff about what people are doing and why
:
00:45:30,196 --> 00:45:31,911
they're doing it, and became a big thing.
:
00:45:31,911 --> 00:45:35,871
So for me it was on, on the governance
aspect of it, a curriculum aspect of
:
00:45:35,871 --> 00:45:39,291
it, but also teaching Islam studies
and rethinking how do we do this?
:
00:45:39,291 --> 00:45:42,051
And then understanding kids
and saying what's going on.
:
00:45:42,051 --> 00:45:45,231
So a lot of, for me, it's like now
these teaching them and saying,
:
00:45:45,231 --> 00:45:48,381
look, you guys are the, but you
guys have to also understand what's
:
00:45:48,381 --> 00:45:49,701
going on with kids and stuff.
:
00:45:49,921 --> 00:45:53,791
that's what I love about Baan right
now I'm getting to deal with all these
:
00:45:53,791 --> 00:45:58,951
individuals who are imams now just
saying, I under, you got all this
:
00:45:59,011 --> 00:46:00,991
knowledge, but there's this one part of.
:
00:46:01,381 --> 00:46:05,521
Understanding how to disseminate
that to a child, right?
:
00:46:05,651 --> 00:46:08,501
and then sometimes words we use
when we grew up like music, Haram.
:
00:46:08,501 --> 00:46:10,061
I'm like, I mean, music is Haram.
:
00:46:10,061 --> 00:46:14,351
Then I'm like, so I'm like, okay, if
listening to Zane Bika or Yu of Islam
:
00:46:14,351 --> 00:46:16,181
is Haram, then why not listen to Tupac?
:
00:46:16,181 --> 00:46:16,631
It doesn't matter.
:
00:46:16,631 --> 00:46:19,511
I'm like, fine, I'm gonna get Ssed C
if I'm listening to cussing anyway.
:
00:46:19,721 --> 00:46:20,351
Sin, whatever.
:
00:46:20,471 --> 00:46:23,171
So not understanding and
breaking things down.
:
00:46:23,171 --> 00:46:25,691
So that's why even went to, I'd be
like, well, let's break that down
:
00:46:25,691 --> 00:46:27,281
to a kid and say, is words Haram?
:
00:46:27,671 --> 00:46:29,321
No words R together.
:
00:46:29,321 --> 00:46:32,871
Haram, no words rhyming
together with, some rhythm.
:
00:46:34,041 --> 00:46:34,521
No.
:
00:46:34,761 --> 00:46:35,001
Okay.
:
00:46:35,001 --> 00:46:35,421
Some, okay.
:
00:46:35,421 --> 00:46:36,921
Some people might have
this about instruments.
:
00:46:37,011 --> 00:46:37,281
Fine.
:
00:46:37,281 --> 00:46:38,721
That's a, that's one conversation.
:
00:46:39,021 --> 00:46:41,061
But we're rhyming together with message.
:
00:46:41,091 --> 00:46:43,341
Is that how I, no spoken words.
:
00:46:43,341 --> 00:46:43,701
Okay.
:
00:46:43,701 --> 00:46:44,781
Some songs are okay.
:
00:46:45,231 --> 00:46:51,861
Words, you know, that go against God's
commandments are, you know, are rules.
:
00:46:51,861 --> 00:46:52,191
Okay.
:
00:46:52,431 --> 00:46:56,061
Now when you break it down,
a kid like that're like, oh.
:
00:46:56,481 --> 00:46:57,351
That's the thing, right?
:
00:46:57,351 --> 00:47:01,881
Like we just, we go bluntly on a
comment without breaking things down.
:
00:47:02,241 --> 00:47:04,071
Then you start questioning God.
:
00:47:04,641 --> 00:47:06,651
That's why my biggest
worry like, and have that.
:
00:47:06,651 --> 00:47:08,511
So that's what this whole
consulting kind of company came in.
:
00:47:08,721 --> 00:47:11,691
So many parts was leadership and helping
out school, but they're also kind of
:
00:47:11,691 --> 00:47:15,411
rethinking and having these conversations
and saying, Hey, we have to, also
:
00:47:15,711 --> 00:47:20,511
looking at growing up here, being A,
you know, a first generation looking at
:
00:47:20,511 --> 00:47:24,171
certain, seeing the co conversations and
talking about stuff that people don't
:
00:47:24,171 --> 00:47:27,981
really wanna talk about and how do we
kind to answer these in proper ways?
:
00:47:28,101 --> 00:47:31,911
And Ella, bless now, you know, you
have the, and all these kind of make
:
00:47:31,911 --> 00:47:34,971
things more practical and kind of have
that, and then you'll see aah bless
:
00:47:35,241 --> 00:47:39,021
all you Imam and all the work you
guys are doing just to make change.
:
00:47:39,021 --> 00:47:41,841
Because right now, more than ever,
kids are questioning faith because the
:
00:47:41,841 --> 00:47:43,731
morality is such you out an Halton high.
:
00:47:43,941 --> 00:47:44,121
yeah.
:
00:47:44,121 --> 00:47:46,881
So yeah, the consulting company
is like a vast kind of thing.
:
00:47:47,091 --> 00:47:49,251
And what's crazy why the, and people
might be asking em throughout the
:
00:47:49,251 --> 00:47:50,571
world 'cause of the whole global.
:
00:47:50,811 --> 00:47:51,771
Satellites now.
:
00:47:52,011 --> 00:47:56,481
All those challenges that people thought
the West, everyone's dealing with it.
:
00:47:56,721 --> 00:48:00,231
And now many of them are
asking how do you deal with it?
:
00:48:00,231 --> 00:48:01,491
Because they have never done it.
:
00:48:01,491 --> 00:48:05,361
'cause it was just like whatever we were
told cultural and now they're like, kids
:
00:48:05,361 --> 00:48:06,681
are questioning back and they don't know.
:
00:48:06,771 --> 00:48:09,051
'cause we were like, we're just
told because my parents told
:
00:48:09,051 --> 00:48:09,861
me, I, grandparents told me.
:
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And that's not enough answer now.
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'cause kids are able to,
you know, rethinking.
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Imam Tariq: Yeah.
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So in all of the thousands of
lectures that you've given, are
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there some, consistent questions
that keep coming back up from folks?
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Habib Quadri: Yeah.
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You know, for Young, for the youth.
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I think you, there's all, the
whole thing is being open to
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letting us ask any question I have.
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I rather them ha have them ask us.
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Like ulamaa, again, I'm not
a scholar for anyone here.
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I'm just saying educators who could
speak to ulamaa, but like having a sheikh
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like you where they could come and ask.
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Then having Google, because right now
the problem is even Google, they could
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go to Muslim website, but you don't
know who's on the backside of this.
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Some of these are dummy websites
too, so that becomes a problem.
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Like a lot of the stuff that we did
with Extremist Kit kids who try to
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join Extreme Groups, hamula, even
when I dealt with Homeland Security
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and stuff, none of 'em were connected
to massages and Islamic schools.
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They were all online information.
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That's why it's so important.
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if you get that strength,
you know, kind of knowledge.
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I think that by itself was what, I
think that became, kind of important,
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to kind of realize that basis
of our Islamic knowledge, having
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kids ask any questions they have.
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the second thing I see, 'cause there,
you know, a lot of social ill questions.
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that's where there is that second
thing is not losing kid kids hope.
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See, one of the things when
we thought, man, I mean I did
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this Haram, I did this Haram.
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Man, I'mma go to hell.
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'Cause sometimes we talk about
this, a haba was so amazing.
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Then like you compare
that, you got no hope.
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But what is it that we forget that Allah's
Mercy is at another whole infinite, right?
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Yeah.
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and especially, I think
we've changed it now.
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The only worry I get now, I think
we sometimes pendulum too much
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to the other side, like Allah's.
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So merciful.
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I'm like, no, you're still
gonna be accountable.
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That's right.
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So I think Allah's hope and Mercy's
there, but the only caveat I realize now,
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people are almost like, oh, so forgive.
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Do anything you want as long.
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I'm like, look, let's slow this down too.
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So that's you, that's the one only I
felt like the pendulum is going the
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other way too, but hope, because I
realized a lot of times how our, you
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know, especially immigrant parents were
so tough that you're like, man, kids
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started trying to go the other way.
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So I think, hope, mercy opening
up questions and then the
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other thing is they have to be
confident of who they are, right?
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00:50:19,331 --> 00:50:24,911
It is, okay, our dean, you could
be Muslim and still be American.
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Like they don't have to have this battle.
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I think for some reason we have this
battle, oh my God, everything against him.
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I'm like, no, we ha we can, we
have the right to have issues.
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That's why when people go and
say Pakistan, man, I feel more
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safe in America than some Muslim.
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Some countries I've gone to, I've been
to some Muslim, some countries, I don't
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wanna say it 'cause I don't want someone
to get offended, but where I had armed
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guards with me the whole time, right?
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Because of kidnapping or so on and
so forth, or whatever those are.
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So I would say, look, everything in
our, those countries too, there's a
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lot of stuff that's very questionable,
but you still love your country.
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I still love our people here, but
there are some domestic policy's.
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00:51:05,236 --> 00:51:06,076
Unacceptable.
:
00:51:06,286 --> 00:51:08,566
There's some overseas
policy, unacceptable.
:
00:51:08,686 --> 00:51:12,166
There's some amazing politicians
and there's some s who I don't like.
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00:51:12,226 --> 00:51:13,516
There's some amazing neighbors.
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There's some not amazing neighbors.
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There's some amazing Muslims.
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There are not some amazing Muslims.
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00:51:18,076 --> 00:51:21,886
That's what we have in saying, look,
our dean is to keep moving forward
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to worship Allah and worship Allah.
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It's not I, but how we deal with people.
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And so that's my, you know, like my
other thing is that look, just being a
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good person is worse from Allah smiling.
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00:51:33,826 --> 00:51:37,156
You get Hassana picking up something,
you hassana being nice to your neighbor.
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00:51:37,156 --> 00:51:38,986
You get hassana not cheating the system.
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00:51:38,986 --> 00:51:41,461
You get hassana not cheating
on your taxes, you get hassana.
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Everything a lot has it
is that we have to do.
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And so that's kind of my kind of approach
where, you know, people, you know, of
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the kids like open is questions, hope,
mercy, be confident of who you are and
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00:51:55,161 --> 00:51:56,541
understanding there's nothing wrong.
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00:51:57,081 --> 00:51:59,661
Being happy where you are
and trying to make it better.
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00:52:00,211 --> 00:52:03,841
You know, at least my, if I had to
kind of sum the, I mean there's a lot,
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00:52:03,841 --> 00:52:06,751
you know, things from there and then
from teachers, it's disseminating the
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00:52:06,751 --> 00:52:10,111
information, the challenges of all these
issues that people are having is one
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00:52:10,111 --> 00:52:12,901
of the things I've seen, like imams and
all this, how to answer some of this
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00:52:12,901 --> 00:52:15,241
because just because I mom doesn't mean
you have answers for everything, right?
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00:52:15,601 --> 00:52:15,661
Yeah.
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00:52:15,761 --> 00:52:16,631
Counseling.
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00:52:17,051 --> 00:52:20,771
Marriage counseling, youth counseling
have to lead the prayers, give all the
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00:52:20,771 --> 00:52:22,541
juma they need to know all the politics.
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00:52:23,441 --> 00:52:24,941
Everyone has specialty, right?
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00:52:24,941 --> 00:52:28,081
You know, like they, they're
not the answer for everything.
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00:52:28,081 --> 00:52:32,881
But as imams, they have for teachers, I'll
say, look, gets people who are special
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00:52:32,911 --> 00:52:34,351
in this and say, how would you do this?
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00:52:34,481 --> 00:52:36,161
I'll talk a counselor,
what's your thoughts on this?
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00:52:36,161 --> 00:52:39,431
I have this kid, I have
this question's coming up.
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What do you do?
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00:52:40,211 --> 00:52:41,831
I don't have to just say,
I'm gonna look it up.
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Find the people who are, who
could be advocates for you.
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Be make them part of your team is,
I think one thing I have to say when
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00:52:47,651 --> 00:52:51,101
these questions and challenges come
through, and then for institutions,
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00:52:51,311 --> 00:52:56,046
we have to have them have a love for
this, our massages and things, right?
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00:52:56,266 --> 00:52:59,260
No doubt we need to have professionalism,
which I'm thinking we're getting better
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at and we need to have, organization
stuff, but we also need to make
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sure we have to keep things open.
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00:53:06,295 --> 00:53:07,225
Now my only worries.
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00:53:07,225 --> 00:53:10,075
Now I also get worried about some
of our new co people come in.
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00:53:10,255 --> 00:53:12,745
One thing they don't like, they
need to post it, take a picture.
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00:53:12,985 --> 00:53:14,065
Oh my God, look at this.
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00:53:14,065 --> 00:53:15,715
I'm like, you caught one thing.
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00:53:15,715 --> 00:53:19,615
Let's really make sure you're giving a
fair justification to this budget, to this
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00:53:19,795 --> 00:53:21,715
imam before you're blasting it on too.
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00:53:21,715 --> 00:53:24,675
Because now everyone's everything goes
viral before you're getting that too.
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00:53:25,185 --> 00:53:27,975
That's, you know, I'm also, I
have to give it that balance on
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00:53:27,975 --> 00:53:29,205
both sides too, you know, yeah.
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00:53:29,385 --> 00:53:33,015
Where we keep it open and stuff, but
that doesn't mean everything is just, you
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00:53:33,015 --> 00:53:34,605
know, go, just because I didn't like it.
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00:53:35,625 --> 00:53:39,165
Everything's wrong about this mosque,
which I also feel is not cool.
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Imam Tariq: And I would actually, I would
go back to the observation that you made
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00:53:44,055 --> 00:53:48,795
as a 14-year-old saying that you had
some issues with, you know, with weekend
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00:53:48,795 --> 00:53:53,265
school, with Sunday school and says, and
you being given the responsibility, okay,
:
00:53:53,265 --> 00:53:54,285
well what are you gonna do about it?
:
00:53:54,685 --> 00:53:58,585
when we make critiques, if we are not
prepared to offer correction, then those
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00:53:58,585 --> 00:54:01,075
critiques really, they kinda ring hollow.
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00:54:01,745 --> 00:54:08,095
and I, so I want to ask you now about,
what does receiving the isna Lifetime
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00:54:08,095 --> 00:54:12,505
Educational Achievement award, what does
that mean to you on a personal level?
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00:54:13,705 --> 00:54:15,715
Habib Quadri: You know, those
I get worried about because,
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00:54:15,715 --> 00:54:17,965
man, I just, I don't wanna get
in trouble upstairs, you know?
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00:54:17,965 --> 00:54:21,940
You know, it's as, you
know, see, I look at it too.
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00:54:21,940 --> 00:54:26,372
you know, it's funny for me at the Islamic
side, you know, you know, you know,
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00:54:26,377 --> 00:54:27,660
in sha we do it for the sake of Allah.
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00:54:27,660 --> 00:54:29,850
But, you know, if it could be a
way to motivate people to like,
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00:54:29,850 --> 00:54:31,800
Hey, just do what you have to do.
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00:54:31,800 --> 00:54:33,360
and hopefully others will recognize it.
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00:54:33,660 --> 00:54:33,840
Imam Tariq: Right.
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00:54:34,020 --> 00:54:36,690
Habib Quadri: But I'll be honest,
when I get more excited is when we,
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00:54:36,720 --> 00:54:39,240
when we went, you know, how like
that even the basketball thing, you
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00:54:39,240 --> 00:54:41,990
know, like you were talking about the
basketball, like that article That got
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00:54:41,990 --> 00:54:47,670
more kids to be like, look, we can, we
could still be top people in America.
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00:54:48,060 --> 00:54:52,080
So for me, the ones where, like the
na, like the principal award, national
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00:54:52,110 --> 00:54:55,410
principal, again, white House and say
we could compete against everyone else.
:
00:54:55,770 --> 00:54:59,220
Don't think from Islamic school all man,
we're part, are we, because we have a
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00:54:59,220 --> 00:55:02,280
Muslim, like I've worked at a school
that we can't compete somewhere else.
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00:55:02,500 --> 00:55:05,110
So that, that idea of confidence
source, that's why we're, I'm
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00:55:05,110 --> 00:55:08,880
more kind of excited about Hey,
don't ever underestimate yourself.
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Don't everything.
:
00:55:09,570 --> 00:55:10,500
You can't do something.
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00:55:10,560 --> 00:55:14,300
And that's always, I'm always,
this challenge of why can't I, why
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00:55:14,300 --> 00:55:16,010
can't we be the ones who do that?
:
00:55:16,010 --> 00:55:17,870
So that's why I'm always like,
well, let me see if I could
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00:55:17,870 --> 00:55:19,100
play ball and be good at it.
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00:55:19,150 --> 00:55:22,100
Or, you know, if I were to be educated,
let me try to be like, strive to be the
:
00:55:22,100 --> 00:55:24,680
best at it and say, how do you do that?
:
00:55:24,960 --> 00:55:28,710
but one of the things that, but especially
for all of us who are, you know, in some
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00:55:28,710 --> 00:55:31,830
form of leadership That means we have to
always keep on checking our hearts that,
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00:55:32,490 --> 00:55:35,340
you know, because these things could
also get you in your like, man, you know,
:
00:55:35,820 --> 00:55:38,100
so it's all yeah, how do you struggle?
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00:55:38,130 --> 00:55:40,410
And that's why when you had
Todd, like we all always have
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to have our internal say, hey.
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Who's there.
:
00:55:42,975 --> 00:55:45,575
And that's why I always get to have
good friends of yeah, that's great, but
:
00:55:45,635 --> 00:55:47,115
guess what, you're horrible at this.
:
00:55:47,145 --> 00:55:50,655
Which is good to have those close
boys, those close BA boys or
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00:55:50,655 --> 00:55:54,585
families sometimes that wife would
just tell you like it is, right.
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00:55:54,585 --> 00:55:58,485
So I think having that text, but I mean,
at the end it's aah, but really it's
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00:55:59,025 --> 00:56:03,005
hopefully there's, if it could inspire
educators to say you know, a lot of
:
00:56:03,005 --> 00:56:05,615
times I hear people, I was like, man,
oh no, we can't Islam go board this.
:
00:56:05,615 --> 00:56:08,395
Everyone always blames someone
else and saying, but we got
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00:56:08,455 --> 00:56:10,885
the sun of Allah for profits.
:
00:56:10,885 --> 00:56:11,905
It wasn't easy.
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00:56:12,145 --> 00:56:14,245
So we have to strive and hustle.
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00:56:14,545 --> 00:56:20,310
Just like when you said, Imam, you made
up a, a good a point here is that, you
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00:56:20,310 --> 00:56:23,670
know, when people complain, they just
complain and when they get involved
:
00:56:23,670 --> 00:56:27,510
they're like, oh man, I tried you just
sending one email doesn't mean anything.
:
00:56:27,975 --> 00:56:29,535
In corporate America, you have an issue.
:
00:56:29,535 --> 00:56:31,635
You keep on trying, you're
trying to start your business.
:
00:56:31,755 --> 00:56:33,855
You're gonna grind and
grind to get what you need.
:
00:56:34,035 --> 00:56:35,535
You wanna get strong working out.
:
00:56:35,715 --> 00:56:37,755
It's not gonna happen after
working out for a month.
:
00:56:37,875 --> 00:56:39,555
It's going to be after six, seven months.
:
00:56:39,915 --> 00:56:43,155
But why is it when we come to religious
institutions, we're all like, man,
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00:56:44,085 --> 00:56:46,065
lemme just quickly post, right?
:
00:56:46,145 --> 00:56:46,865
That's that grind.
:
00:56:46,865 --> 00:56:51,155
Because even that frustration,
if we keep our intentions,
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00:56:51,245 --> 00:56:52,685
you're getting has enough for it.
:
00:56:52,735 --> 00:56:53,695
Even if they don't go with it.
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00:56:53,695 --> 00:56:55,555
So like I came with good
sincerity, it didn't happen.
:
00:56:55,915 --> 00:57:01,045
Look, I've had in my 24 years, like
10 different board members and 15
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00:57:01,045 --> 00:57:02,815
presidents of 13 presidents of the maja.
:
00:57:03,625 --> 00:57:05,305
Every three, four years
we have like a rotation.
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00:57:05,515 --> 00:57:05,605
Imam Tariq: Mm-hmm.
:
00:57:05,995 --> 00:57:07,315
Habib Quadri: There are
different personalities, right?
:
00:57:07,315 --> 00:57:10,835
They that, that, hey, I didn't lose my, I
didn't get, I didn't go ball and lose, get
:
00:57:10,835 --> 00:57:12,575
white hair by the age of 30 for no reason.
:
00:57:12,965 --> 00:57:13,625
Things happen.
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00:57:13,775 --> 00:57:14,705
Everything wasn't smooth.
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00:57:14,705 --> 00:57:15,815
And s sailing I lot taxes.
:
00:57:15,865 --> 00:57:17,905
But I didn't want people
to think it can't happen.
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00:57:17,955 --> 00:57:20,955
I wanted not be like, oh, you know
what principles, every Islam schools.
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00:57:20,955 --> 00:57:21,225
Yeah.
:
00:57:21,225 --> 00:57:21,705
Every three years.
:
00:57:21,705 --> 00:57:22,065
It's crazy.
:
00:57:22,065 --> 00:57:22,725
Community's crazy.
:
00:57:23,055 --> 00:57:24,915
So when I go to Islam school, it's
no, you could stay there longer.
:
00:57:24,965 --> 00:57:27,275
Even our principal, vice principal
Alhamdulillah, they're all there for
:
00:57:27,275 --> 00:57:29,705
14, 15 years and they're all within us.
:
00:57:29,705 --> 00:57:30,305
it's not about Habib.
:
00:57:30,305 --> 00:57:33,545
It's like how do we train, how do
we make our people become better
:
00:57:34,145 --> 00:57:37,265
and not realize that if they become
better than me, that's my happiness.
:
00:57:37,315 --> 00:57:41,515
I always tell kids, only two people are
gonna love, who wanna make you better and
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00:57:41,515 --> 00:57:42,835
want you to become better than they are.
:
00:57:43,165 --> 00:57:44,215
Teachers, majority of the time.
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00:57:44,215 --> 00:57:45,655
'cause they want you to become,
make you become a doctor too.
:
00:57:45,805 --> 00:57:46,405
They're excited.
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00:57:46,525 --> 00:57:47,425
And your mom and dad.
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00:57:47,635 --> 00:57:47,905
That's right.
:
00:57:47,910 --> 00:57:48,985
They want you to become better.
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00:57:49,285 --> 00:57:52,315
And if we could now get that to be
like, man, I just want everyone in our
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00:57:52,315 --> 00:57:53,545
schools and community to get better.
:
00:57:53,545 --> 00:57:55,405
Just be like, your win is my win.
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00:57:55,705 --> 00:57:56,395
That's awesome.
:
00:57:56,455 --> 00:58:01,325
you know, I got to see your wife, won an
award I recognized, I forgot the thing
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about two weeks, 2, 3, 8 weeks ago.
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Imam Tariq: Oh, noble, noble Schools.
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Habib Quadri: Yeah.
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Yeah.
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What was it for for her?
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Imam Tariq: the Noble schools?
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Habib Quadri: Everyone should know this.
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those are huge, right?
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Because yeah.
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that's one of our highly educated
Muslim sisters who has that and for us
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like that, that, that's great, right?
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Because there's so many amazing things
going on and say, what can we do that,
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how we learn from that and kind of having
these platforms and saying, so hopefully
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to inspire people say, that could be me.
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You know?
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you know, my daughter's got to meet your
wife when one time fasting 5K, right?
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I was like, this is so
and This is what she does.
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She's, you know, a pro, you
know, a professor at UIC.
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I'm like, well, Bob, the school
you went to, I was like, yeah.
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You know, so that, that's huge, right?
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Because if they don't see stuff,
and they'd be like, because my worry
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and this whole thing about award
thing is I like to show kids, people
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who they could still see Yeah.
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And do stuff.
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'cause when we always talk about
the Saha, bless them, anyone who's
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see this, and, but sometimes kids
need to see concrete because it's
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not like this is this is a sister.
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Brother practicing their dean.
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So right now I teach, I still teach
a class once, to the senior class.
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On, on leadership and entrepreneurship.
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And we bring in different individuals.
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And so we have a person who's who
became Alah, 26 years straight, earnest
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and young, and now is a partner.
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So one of the first southeastern Asian
Muslim guys in, you know, Chicago.
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So I was like, look, what's his storyline?
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We had another person who, you know,
started, we started like accelerator,
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like a thing for cryptocurrency.
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And then, mark Cuban invested in him.
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I was like, Hey, show guy people who
they comfort soah, who have done some
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cool things who are in our community.
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Right?
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People don't see that stuff.
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And I think that's where I look at that.
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Where I'm more excited if kids could
kind of, kind of encourages them.
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'cause you know, like I'm Mr.
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QI was like, man, I didn't know
you were that big of a baller.
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I'm like, gives you credibility
that they're gonna listen to me
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about some religious thing, maybe.
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So I realized like sports and all
these other things can me help bring
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credibility to an adult or to a child
and in Shaah And then for us, sometimes
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01:00:00,280 --> 01:00:05,270
I get worried that man a lot is, you
know, that Allah that protects our, from
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our, from take away sincerity in shaah
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Imam Tariq: at me.
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At me.
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Alright.
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My final question for you,
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Habib Quadri: Yes sir.
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Imam Tariq: Actually, it's more
of a, it's more of a finish
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this sentence if you would.
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Habib Quadri: Yes, sir.
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Imam Tariq: the moment I knew I
was walking in my purpose was when
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Habib Quadri: eighth grade
graduation at Detroit Public Schools.
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When, I worked in Detroit public
schools was unique at that moment.
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So I was there for four years and
that was a year at graduation.
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And again, just a learning and
what, for me that, and it kind of
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like where they all the kids stood
up and gave me a standing ovation
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and said, thank you for all that.
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And then parents were crying
saying, thank you for that.
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You really cared about your kids.
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01:00:51,385 --> 01:00:53,690
And I think you know, that you
really cared about them because,
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you know, I made this opportunity
every two weeks, you know, call.
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And so that's when I realized
sometimes you don't know if
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you really made an impact.
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I think that was there.
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and sometimes you always, I always
tell educators, you're never always
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gonna get to know later, but you know,
when I got sick, you know, and I was
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in chemo, I had a lot of people send
letters and kids were telling me like,
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when you did this, things that you don't
remember that, that the, it, it impact.
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you know, that's where you get
You know, that's what, when you
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realize, hey, you never know, right?
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Yeah.
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Whose life, whose life you could impact
or whose life you could maybe best up.
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yeah.
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those were the moments.
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Sorry.
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Mah mah.
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Imam Tariq: Thank you so much.
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I really appreciate you taking
the time to share with us.
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And we are gonna move eventually to video.
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Right now it's just audio.
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but what I'm pretty sure is that our
listeners will be able to hear the
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01:01:51,330 --> 01:01:53,190
smile on your face as you are talking
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and, that's good.
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And the sincerity in your voice.
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I continue to bless
you, in your leadership.
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Continue to put Barica in all of
your work because one of the things
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that I'm taking away from this
is that it's never just about us.
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01:02:10,584 --> 01:02:15,294
Our work is really about how
we are impacting other people.
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So mail I continue to
bless you and your family.
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Habib Quadri: Ameen, ameen.
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01:02:20,799 --> 01:02:21,099
Thank you.
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May Allah reward the work you're doing.
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01:02:22,939 --> 01:02:25,339
and may Allah accept it And
thank you for this opportunity.
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Imam Tariq: ameen.
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Alright, As Salaamu Alaikum my brother.
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Habib Quadri: Wa Alaikum
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Imam Tariq: As Salaam
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Imam Tariq El-Amin.
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I leave you as I greeted you, as made
the peace that only God can give be upon
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you.